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The 2 Main Ingredients of Change

The 2 Main Ingredients of Change

This is my first post in more than two months – sorry about that! I’ve been going through a lot of huge stuff in my personal life that I will explain someday. For now, I’d like to talk about dealing with change. MAKING CHANGES My whole world has changed completely over the last couple of months. I even moved back to my home state of Michigan, which I never thought I’d do. (Not that there’s anything wrong with Michigan; I’ve…

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Comfort: The Good and the Bad

Comfort: The Good and the Bad

Photo by Thomas Willmott on Unsplash   I learned something new in therapy a while ago. I don’t recall what we were talking about, but the moral of the story is that feeling comfortable and staying in “the known” isn’t always a good thing. “THE KNOWN” IS COMFORTING As human beings, we are creatures of comfort. We get into our routines and habits and do the same things – day in, day out. And for the most part, this is fine. It gets…

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Recovering From Mental Illness

Recovering From Mental Illness

Photo by Dawid Zawiła on Unsplash   Today’s post was written by Warrior Aimee Eddy. You can find her bio at the end of this post.   Many people with mental illness feel like they are doomed to live their lives stuck in the midst of the depths of sadness, anguish, and torture of their sickness. It’s also a common misconception in society that people with mental illness can never get better. The truth is that most people who are suffering from a…

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What Suicidal People Really Want

What Suicidal People Really Want

They say that hindsight is 20/20, right? That’s good, because I totally blanked on Suicide Prevention Awareness Week (Sept. 8-14) and World Suicide Prevention Awareness Day (Sept. 10) this year. At least I didn’t miss the entire Suicide Prevention Awareness Month! In hindsight, I realize that I need to be a little more organized when it comes to these things. I haven’t been on the Twitter machine much lately, so I didn’t see the hashtags that are associated with these…

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Depression Has a Mind of Its Own

Depression Has a Mind of Its Own

Photo by Maksym Kaharlytskyi on Unsplash   I feel small today. Small and quiet. My last post, How to Change Destructive Thinking, has a positive twang to it. It’s all about possibility and how we actually do have the ability to challenge our negative thoughts; we just need the tools to do so. That hasn’t changed. It is still true for me, and it is still true for you. I wrote that post two days ago, published it yesterday, and sent it out…

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How to Change Destructive Thinking

How to Change Destructive Thinking

Hey, Warrior! Happy Wednesday! 🙂 I was just reading an email from a very wise, emotionally healthy woman, clinical psychologist Dr. Gail Brenner. I have two of her books. One is called The End of Self-Help: Discovering Peace and Happiness Right at the Heart of Your Messy, Scary, Brilliant Life, which I haven’t finished yet, but has helped change my outlook on things. Her newest book (2018) is called Suffering is Optional: A Spiritual Guide to Freedom from Self-Judgment and…

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Catching Depression Early

Catching Depression Early

Photo by Marija Zaric on Unsplash So, I’m going through something interesting right now. On the one hand, I’ve been experiencing mood swings for the last couple of weeks. I’ve recently had a couple of REALLY bad anxious days. Yesterday was one of them. Luckily, I had a therapy appointment in the morning, so I attempted to work through it with Kim; unfortunately, I felt just as lousy when I left as when I got there. It was out of hand. I realize…

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MHM #8: 7 Signs You’re Seeing the Wrong Shrink

MHM #8: 7 Signs You’re Seeing the Wrong Shrink

Welcome to MHM #8! Mental Health Moments are shorter posts with practical tips, suggestions, and other helpful things. I’m on my fifth psychiatrist since 2004, and I’ve seen many more during my hospitalizations. There are some great men and women in this profession who care about their patients and go above and beyond their duties for our mental health. But there are also some doozies out there that should be avoided at all costs. Picking out a pdoc randomly from…

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It’s Confession Time: A Story About Relapsing

It’s Confession Time: A Story About Relapsing

Photo by Jerry Zhang on Unsplash I have a confession to make: I drank a few weeks ago. Yes, I know you might be thinking “What?! Why?” Well, I’ll tell you. My wife and her mother were going to be in West Virginia for a week to visit CeAnne’s terminally ill brother. I was going to have a whole week to myself for the first time in 12 years. Although it was a sad occasion, it offered me plenty of alone time. As…

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Are you Accepting Your Reality?

Are you Accepting Your Reality?

Photo by Alex Lopez on Unsplash Hello, Warrior! 🙂 You know how sometimes you’re in a bad mood or feel depressed or anxious and you have no idea why? Yeah, I don’t feel that way today! In fact, I’m in a really good mood, despite the dark, rainy, thunderous sky. I love it when that happens! I WROTE A BOOK! You may or may not know that I recently had a book published! Sorry for the shameless plug, but I’m going to refer…

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What NOT to Say to Someone With a Mental Illness

What NOT to Say to Someone With a Mental Illness

Photo by Jordan Whitt on Unsplash When you come out to someone about your depression or anxiety, you may encounter any one of a number of responses. Here are a few examples: They give you a hug. They say, “Really? I had no idea.” They ask if they can help. They say something like, “What do you have to be depressed about?” This post is going to address some of the things you really don’t want to say to someone who has depression,…

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Mental Illness and Addiction: Let’s Talk About It

Mental Illness and Addiction: Let’s Talk About It

Photo by Nik Shuliahin on Unsplash Mental Health Awareness Month is coming to an end, so let’s talk about Stigma. Merriam-Webster defines Stigma as “a mark of shame or discredit.” Now let’s see what the definition of Shame is: “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety.” Those are pretty heavy definitions, if you ask me. But they describe the experience of so many of us who live with mental illness and/or addiction. LIFE IS NOT FAIR Mental illnesses are,…

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MHM #7: 12 Fun Ways to Combat Depression and Anxiety

MHM #7: 12 Fun Ways to Combat Depression and Anxiety

Welcome to Mental Health Moment (MHM) #7! This post is all about fun (and mostly free) things you can do to combat your depression and anxiety or even keep them at bay. I’ve seen lots of lists of ways to keep yourself busy and distracted, but for the most part, they lack an important ingredient – fun! So I thought I would make up my own list of things you can do fairly easily when you feel depression or anxiety…

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I Was Suicidal as a Teenager

I Was Suicidal as a Teenager

As I explained in the previous post, May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Lots of organizations go the extra mile during this time to get the word out about how common mental illness really is – that we all know someone (or several someones) who have mental health diagnoses, even if we don’t realize it. The idea is to reduce the stigma associated with the term “mental illness” and take it for what it is: A medical condition. Our last…

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Teen Suicide – A Very Special Guest Post **T/W**

Teen Suicide – A Very Special Guest Post **T/W**

May is Mental Health Month in the U.S. It is the time of year mental health agencies, organizations, and individuals across the country fight the stigma surrounding mental illness even harder than they usually do. You are undoubtedly aware that teen suicide (and suicide in general) is a big problem here, with death by suicide being the second-leading cause of death in the U.S. for children ages 10-14 and ages 15-24, behind only unintentional injury. In 2017 alone, more than…

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Stop Punishing Yourself

Stop Punishing Yourself

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash   I’ve been having thoughts of drinking lately and, inevitably, it became an urge one day last week. I hate it when that happens. So I did what any normal, healthy, recovering alcoholic would do: I called someone who understands. She talked me down and convinced me that I needed to return to my sobriety support group. It’s a pretty big deal that I called her before I went out. In the past, I would go…

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Panic Attacks

Panic Attacks

Photo by Kat J on Unsplash Have I ever told you that I used to have panic attacks? No? Well, we’ll fix that today. Everyone experiences them a little differently, but they all suck the big one. This is what mine look like: Intense fear, feeling like the world is about to end, feeling like I’m “losing it,” hyperventilating, sobbing, and a very strong and rapid heartbeat. Sounds like fun, doesn’t it? Panic attacks are, in fact, pretty scary. The thought that you’re…

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MHM #6: 11 Low-Effort Self-Care Tips to Help You Feel Less Depressed

MHM #6: 11 Low-Effort Self-Care Tips to Help You Feel Less Depressed

Photo by Milada Vigerova on Unsplash Every so often, I like to publish a post about general mental health care. So today, I bring you Mental Health Moment (MHM) #6. I’ve been feeling a bit run-down lately. I know a lot of it is because of the stress I’ve been under recently, but the other part of the equation is that my last round of TMS was in November. The effects of the TMS usually start subsiding after about five or six months,…

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